The Best Solutions Ever For Procrastination

I asked my wonderful Twitter followers what they would like to read about, and several of them responded that they would like to read about things that they can implement into their life. After much thought, I realized that if there is one thing that I could help others learn about, it would be about Procrastination. 

I like to think that I am a mastermind when it comes to not procrastinating. It is a skill that has taken me all of my life to master. I remember being a kid and struggling to get things done because I didn’t really want to do it. 

Here are some tips for when you really don’t want to do anything but you still need to get it done. 

#1: Set a Timer

This is a HUGE help for me in the procrastination department. This year as I have started my first year of teaching, I have felt the burden of stress. I often am so tired by the end of the day that I don’t want to do anything else. However, I am also a coach and am going to school full time. In order for me to get my schoolwork done, I set a timer for 45 minutes. During those 45 minutes I focus only on school work. I don’t check my phone, emails, shop on Amazon, or watch an episode on Netflix. These 45 minutes are precious. They are to be used SOLELY for the purpose of being productive. 

Once the 45 minutes has been completed, I then will reward myself with 30 minutes of me doing whatever I want. Now is the appropriate time to Amazon shop or Netflix and Chill. Then I repeat the process till I can’t go any longer or are needing a little break. 

This has been perfect for me. Sometimes I do a 30 minute timer and a 10 minute break depending on my day. It changes just like life does. I have noticed though how much more productive I am when I know that I have a break and a reward coming up. I am able to accomplish so much more than I normally would have. 

#2 Set Weekly Goals

This has been another HUGE one for me. Goal setting has always been a huge part of my life. As an athlete in High School I would always set goals for the amount of Blocks in volleyball I would get or the amount of defensive stops that I would create in Basketball. Having a goal helped me to focus on the things that I could control and having something to strive for pushed me harder. 

Lately setting weekly goals has played a big part into me getting everything done that I needed to. I like to set 4 main goals every week. I set a goal for myself physically and spiritually. Then I set a goal for work and one school.  

By deciding at the start of the week what I think is the most important and setting a goal for me to reach helps me to stay focused and combat the procrastination. I really don’t want to let myself down and because of that, I am able to stay focused on my goals and I almost always accomplish them. 

#3 Give Yourself a Break

I know what you must be thinking. How does giving yourself a break help with procrastination? Isn’t a break considered procrastination?

Not really. Here is why. When you are filled to the brim with things to do. When your stress levels are high, you are on your 7th bad hair day of the week. You are loaded on caffeine, and you haven’t seen the sun in days because you have been working so hard. That is when you need a break. 

I can’t tell you enough how many times I have sat down at the computer to get my classes done and I end up spending hours just staring at the computer. I waste all that time and do not accomplish anything because I literally can’t go anymore. 

This is when you need to give yourself a break. Don’t worry about all of your TO DO’s for the day. Instead take an Epsom Salt bath, listen to your favorite music. Put on your comfiest PJ’s and spend a day watching your favorite movies. Go out with your friends who you haven’t seen for weeks while you have been cooped up. 

Taking a break will renew your energy. You will find that after your break, when you return to your todo’s, that procrastination will be easier to combat and you will be more productive. 

What are some of the ways that you have found to be able to overcome procrastination? Leave a comment!

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Taking a Break from Social Media

On October 6th, 2018, President Nelson ask the Women of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints to take a break from social media by doing a 10 day social media fast. This meant taking 10 days from checking Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, Facebook and any of those other social media sites that we use all the time.

This wasn’t as big of a deal for me as it probably was for others. But, it did make a HUGE change in my life.

I noticed that I had more time to spend reading Gods word. I had more time to be productive and get my college classes completed and had time to grade papers. I found myself getting more sleep and spending more time with my family.

I think I mainly noticed the difference in how I felt. It is easy for me to spend time on social media and compare myself to those around me. I think about how I wish I looked like them, was successful like them, had the relationships and experiences that these people had.

Doing this social media fast helped me to stop comparing myself to others. I started to feel more peace and feel more productive because I didn’t have any sort of social media influencing me to forget my divine identity.

Since doing the social media fast, I have deleted the social media apps off of my phone, except for Pinterest (cause I use that SOO much as a teacher). I now only check them on Sundays to check in on family, friends, and I try and find ways to rejoice with them instead of be envious of them.

I love the tools of social media. I love that they can bring us together when we are living far away from each other. But, I love the feeling, the productivity, and the experiences I have when I am not using social media. When I decide to live in the moment instead of document the moment.

I am grateful for the Prophet President Nelson. His inspired challenge for me to take a social media fast has changed my life for the better.

I challenge you, if you haven’t already, to give a 10 day social media fast a try.

I promise it will be very rewarding and you will find yourself feeling more connected with God.

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Embracing

The definition of embrace is to “accept or support (a belief, theory, or change) willingly and enthusiastically”. Lately I have been wondering about this word. Embrace.

I wonder if we can truly embrace ourselves. Can we accept or support ourselves willingly and enthusiastically?

I think that sometimes we are our own worst enemy. We know our faults. We know our wrongdoings. We know the things that we have within ourselves that we don’t like about other people. So how do we embrace all of that?

For me, it is hard for me to embrace myself. To willingly and enthusiastically accept who I am and what I am like. It is hard for me to be okay with the things I wish I could change.

It is hard for me to accept that I am a control freak, and when I can’t plan something it drives me insane. It is hard for me to accept that I have a problem having fun, because I worry and obsess over all the work that I could be doing.

I often wonder how I can embrace myself. Embrace the things that bug me the most about myself.

I often wish that I could do more things spur of the moment. That I could be someone who like to do things that are fun. Instead I like to do the same things. I like to spend time at home, cuddling with my favorite blanket, and the same routine.

I wish I didn’t have so much self doubt. I wish that I had the self confidence that I had when I was in high school and didn’t have a care or anything to lose.

Can I embrace the parts of myself that I wish I could change? I honestly don’t know.

All I do know is how different and better I feel when I let all of it go. When I let the desire of wanting to be different go and instead fill that void with the love for myself and for who I am. It is by embracing who I am, instead of who I am not that I am able to find the joy.

In our lives, it is easy to notice the things that we are not. It is easy to lose ourselves in our insecurities and doubts. But, that is not a fun way to live. Take it from someone who battles with those feelings every day.

That is why I have found that letting go and surrendering my negative feelings has provided so much help for me. I am able to realize that I love who I am and that I don’t need to change.

I have to admit though, the change doesn’t happen over night. Obviously since I am thinking about it right now you can tell that it is something that I am constantly having to let go.

But, it is possible. The gradual changes provide happiness and light into my life. This can happen for you too. Experience those feelings of things that you desire would change and let them go. Replace them with positive emotions. Love for yourself, Courage to embrace who you are, and Peace with where you are at.

This truly is powerful. I cannot say this enough. Embrace yourself. Love yourself and you will find JOY.

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Letting Go

This morning I have been thinking a lot about the ways that I am wanting to change and become better. Recently, my dad gave me a book titled “Letting Go– The Pathway of Surrender” by David R. Hawkins. It has taught me so much about my negative and positive emotions, and what I realized is that I live in a state of negativity.

Hawkins believes that all emotions and feelings cause us to make decisions, but certain emotions help us to make better decisions and find true happiness. For example:

Peace, Joy, Love, Reason, Acceptance, Willingness, Neutrality, and Courage are all positive emotions. Peace is at a higher level of positivity than Courage, but all are still good. However, we also experience the negative emotions such as Pride, Anger, Desire, Fear, Grief, Apathy, Guilt and Shame. Obviously, Pride is a higher level than Shame, but all cause negative things to happen to us.

So, with this information and after reading his whole book, I have been thinking about some of my negative feelings associated with those emotions.

For example:

I have PRIDE for my work ethic and like it when other people recognize what I have accomplished and done.

That’s not necessarily a bad thing all the time, but it still is a negative emotion because my intent isn’t because I love my job, or because I love that I can do a good job, but instead its about how much I want people to recognize me.

I feel ANGER whenever I do not get what I want after working so hard for it.

This is a negative emotion because instead of thinking about how I am willing and courageous to try again, I am stuck feeling like its everyone and everything else’s fault.  Anger can accomplish things and changes, don’t get me wrong, but it is not a great place to dwell.

I experience DESIRE when I have a goal and really really really really want it.

This negative emotion is one that I have to let go of the most. Hawkins explains that our DESIRE for something, out constantly dwelling, can make it so we don’t achieve what we want. It actually hold us back. So, I have learned that if I have something that I really want to have happen, that I need to think about why I want it, and let it go. Trust that the universe and God will take care of it, and it normally does. It is so neat.

I constantly dwell in a state of FEAR. Fear that I won’t get to live with God again. Fear that I will end up as an old, single, math teacher. Fear that I will lose those close to me. Fear that I won’t be successful. Fear that I don’t have enough money. Fear that if I drive at night that I will hit an animal and total my car. Fear that I won’t ever make any friends. The list goes on and on.

This is a really hard state to be in. I find myself constantly letting go of my emotions relating to Fear and what is amazing is that when I have truly let it go, I go from a state of Fear automatically to courage. Which is definitely a better feeling. Now I need to figure out how I can come from a state of Fear to a state of Love.

GRIEF and APATHY are hard emotions that I seem to always be in. I am always thinking about the “Shoulda coulda woulda”.

Grief and Apathy are big negative emotions because instead of enjoying what you have at the present you are constantly thinking about the past and how you wish you could’ve done something differently. Reflecting isn’t a bad thing, but GREIF and APATHY sure don’t help you feel good about yourself.

Then we have GUILT and SHAME. I feel Guilt and Shame when I have done something wrong and feel like I don’t deserve to be forgiven. I feel guilt when I do something that is less than perfect.

This is honestly the worst state to be in. It drains everything from us. You would think that because you feel that guilt and shame that you won’t want to do it again, and that is true. Normally we don’t want to do it again. But, sometimes we end up doing it again anyways because we think that we’ve already messed up so what’s another time.

Negative is not a great place to live in. I honestly think that its not really living.

We can experience and recognize what we are feeling and change the way that we look at things. We can start looking for the positive and surrendering to the fact that we can’t control everything.

By understanding my negative feelings, I have been able to let go of them and experience more of the positive emotions. It will be a journey of a lifetime, but I am grateful for experiences that help me to recognize that my life can be so much more.

I know that as you let go of your negative emotions that you will get to experience true joy and happiness. I challenge you to find something that you have negative emotions for and start to tackle it and let it go. I promise you great strength as you do so!

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Big News!

So, I have been praying and thinking a LOT about what to do to further on the work that He needs me to do. I have thought about what things I would’ve liked to have when I was first developing my own testimony and have decided that I am going to promote Book of Mormon Monday.

On Monday every week, starting on 6/18/18,  I will post a link to YouTube and a brief explanation on my blog, as well as the full video on my Facebook page Yaersblog and the link on Twitter and Instagram.

Basically, you should be able to find it! 🙂

These videos will be about the Book of Mormon and what its purpose is. This is for people who have questions about the Book and are wanting to seek out for themselves if it is true, as well as those who are wanting to grow in their understanding.

I am super excited for this and hope that you will benefit from it as well.

 

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Dating in a Tech Savvy World

Recently I had a dear friend express to me about her recent dating experiences. She told me ” I really tried to put myself out there. I went on so many dates. But I have found the guys are so judgmental and just have this checklist in their mind and like nobody is good enough. I know girls are probably the same way but I just see it from my point of view you know. But anyways I just got on so many first dates none of the dates turn into second dates and it’s just getting really old!!”

It is so sad. I know she isn’t the only one either. A lot of the Young Adults right now ranging from 18-30 are struggling to find people that are truly interested in dating. I hear many people talking about it every week about how frustrating it is to just find somebody who cares enough to know them.

It’s difficult because of the unrealistic expectations that we put on others because of the perfectionism that we see online in our social media. Everyone is always thinking that they can have someone better and are spending more time “ghosting” than communicating. They are picky because they think that perfect male or female is somewhere out there.

Well, only Jesus Christ is perfect, and if you are trying to find his perfection you will be looking for a long time. We are humans and that is okay! It is part of Gods plan to have us be imperfect beings who can learn and experience life. He wants us to communicate and develop relationships and knowledge. We can take those things with us to the next life, but we won’t be able to take our worldly possessions.

I feel really bad for my generation. I feel bad for my kids generation. How are people going to find the one that will help them on their journey to God? How are they supposed to find the one to raise their kids with? How are they supposed to find a spouse that knows how to work hard, if they won’t even put effort into knowing you?

I hope that people realize that there are great people everywhere. You could meet someone you come to love in a place you least expect it. I hope that if someone is putting themselves out there for you, that you at least put an effort into getting to know them.

That’s what Christ would have done.

I know that as we rely on God, that he will guide us to those people who will mean the most to us. God loves all his children.

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10 Things About Me

I have a short post for all of you today. Many of you don’t know much about me, unless your family… (Hey Mom!)  So, here are 10 things, if you aren’t family, that you don’t know about me.

  1. I love anything to do with sports. I currently help coach girls basketball at the high school and love it.
  2. I am working on my bachelor’s degree in Elementary Education.
  3. I grew up playing the violin, but don’t play it as much now, even though I would like too.
  4. I have been dating my boyfriend Caden for about 2.5 years. He provides me with so much happiness and love and I am so grateful for him. Cade post
  5. I have had 3 surgeries. One knee and 2 hip. All on the same leg. surgery
  6. My main education goal is to be an Elementary Psychologist, and later expand to a PhD in Psychology.
  7. I get really nervous when I meet new people.
  8. I am obsessed with Planners. I currently have 3.. not including my electronic versions.  I have a problem with wanting to plan out everything in my life. 🙂
  9. I am an observer. I don’t love to socialize, but I enjoy listening and watching others socialize.
  10. I have kept a journal since I was 8 and love writing about the events and thoughts that I have.

It was actually pretty hard coming up with 10 things, but I finally got it. If you would like to follow this blog, you can follow it on:

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